A Note On Valentine’s Day


It’s Valentine’s Day season. You know the made up holiday to give us diabetes and make every single girl feel inferior if they aren’t being wooed and pursued every February 14th.

In recent generations, men have felt the pressure to be romantic on this day and then stow romance away for another year. Really? One day because the candy companies say you have to? Boys, that so wrong!

I have never been one for forced sentiment days. If a man wants to be with me, I expect that he will show me this on a regular basis, not just one day a year.

I do like lavishing attention on friends, family and lovers, but the time and place is at my discretion. Likewise, if my boyfriend pays attention to me the other 364 days of the year, Valentine’s day means nothing, but an excuse for sex. And, I’ve never needed an excuse, so this day has never been a pull-out-all-the-stops type of day for me. I have romance when I want it, sex when I want it, and alone time when I don’t. I pamper my lover on Valentine’s if I have one and myself if I don’t…actually I pamper myself whether or not I am in a relationship, he just gets to enjoy the attention too.

I remember friends and family on this day as well, because love comes in many different forms and everyone likes to know that they are loved.

Also, if a man hasn’t paid the right kind of attention to me, he probably won’t last to Valentine’s day and that’s fine with me. I never want to be tied to an emotional albatross. I’m much too good for that–no conceit here, I just won’t settle.

Some say this is why I never married, my standards are too high. But, really is that true? I don’t date and toss men away for superficial reasons. When a relationship ends I know I have given it my all and have closure. What more can you ask of me?

So what do I expect on this ooey-gooey holiday? Love. Warmth. Fun.

Wether your a romantic partner or friend/family, remember me on this day with hugs and kisses. Laugh with me, cry with me, act silly with me.

Make me smile. Make me glad you are in my life. And I will do the same for you in return.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

2 thoughts on “A Note On Valentine’s Day

  1. Reblogged this on banafsheh 's short stories and commented:
    I will say this ..love is beyond and far more powerful than that very day , The Valentine’s day I mean!
    When somebody loves you deep , they love you deep everyday despite the disagreements ! Honestly when somebody respects and loves you, they learn to agree to disagree ! They are not disengaged . They want to know more and more about you..They care to know if you are okay daily , weekly , monthly and even by the hours , by the moments of this fast lived life . You are not some ordinary person to them ! You are out of ordinary ! You are a never ending story ..You may get disappointed and saddened by your lover’s attitude toward you! But it also shows 1- you are tolerant ! 2-loving 3-and if they continue with their doubtful attitude , there is always someone else for them , wish them well and let them go !!

    So indeed if love and if true love knocks on our door not only we lucky but also we should know one thing : love is story of give and take ! One gives because they want to give and one takes because they are simply grateful . The grateful gives back and then the giver is happy to take ! thats all , its this simple! Otherwise a complicated love IS NOT love ! It is a vicious circle of needs!

  2. I agree with both of what is written here. I especially like what you had to say, Sandra.
    Hope you had a very happy and fun Valentines day.

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